Narcissists and marriage.
it’s life time commitment towards making a disciplined generation
Marriage is where two mature and connected individuals come together to form a family with each contributing to the welfare and success of the other and the union.
A normal person marries because they have seen the person they would like to share a life with. This is the reason they accept the other person in their entirety welcoming both their strengths and weaknesses.
Narcissists mindsets
A narcissist has different reasons for getting married.
1-They marry for what they would get from that marriage: social status, material things, finances, and how their spouse would help boost their ego.
2-They also marry to gain a constant narcissistic supply of admiration, attention, adoration, and praise.
3-One reason they get married is to constantly have someone to manipulate to achieve their goal.
Since they can't regulate their emotions, marriage gives them a person they would use to regulate their emotions for them.
4-They would constantly dump their emotional baggage on their spouse thereby making their spouse their emotional regulator and trashcan.
5-They don’t see their partner as a partner. They see them as a baby maker, a cook, a cleaner, and a servant in general.
Their partner is also their material and narcissistic supply provider who can be manipulated at will for them to submit and do the narcissist’s bidding.
The narcissist will use various techniques like depriving them of attention, withholding sex, giving the silent treatment, pitting them against other people and other people against their spouse, consistently and persistently criticizing everything they do or say, comparing them negatively with others, gaslighting them into doubting their reality and perception as well as gossiping and backbiting them to others.
Marriage is a blame game win for
Marriage to them is a game that they need to constantly win in arguments and other aspects at all costs. When it becomes boring, they can easily discard the other person and marry another. Where the benefits end, the marriage ends. As much as the other person doesn't see through their mask yet, they can still abuse them emotionally, cheat on them constantly, and manipulate them into submission.
A narcissist sees everyone as an object that they can use to achieve a course, including their spouse and children.
Getting married to a narcissist is like living in hell while still alive. They would make sure they drain you of every available energy, deprive you of pursuing your dreams, gaslight you, and isolate you from your support system. All these would inevitably reduce your self-esteem and your self-confidence, and you end up losing yourself to please them. After many years of constant manipulation, gaslighting, and lying, you end up as a shadow of yourself, bankrupt, unhealthy, unhappy, and unfulfilled.
Who you marry is more important than when you marry. Don't let society push you into marrying the wrong person.
Never compromise on your equal freedom,equal opportunities,And everything you feel should be .
This life is yours and you have to make it in peaceful evironment with all the happy married formulas ingredients should be added in life and this journey.Trust ,respect,understanding,equal opportunities, it all makes love flourish by caring tools
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